Like many young girls, I spent the majority of my life dreaming about a boyfriend. Boys just didn’t seem interested in me, but all my friends were in relationships. I was so jealous. I wanted someone to tell me how pretty I was, to hug me, to take me on dates, and to make me feel special. I wanted to be seen and appreciated. I wanted to be recognized for my value and to be told I was worth something. I wanted someone to know me – the good, the bad, and the ugly – and still choose to love me. I craved validation and intimacy. This went on for years. I was so tired of feeling lonely, being jealous of my friends, and seeking validation from the people around me. Time and time again it left me feeling empty and miserable.
A major turning point in my life was during my sophomore year in college when the Lord started to remind me of the truth of Who I belonged to and who I was created to be. Something changed in my heart, and I finally started looking to Jesus to fill my desire to be known and loved.
In 1 John 3:1 we are reminded of this: “See what great love the Father has lavished on us, that we should be called children of God! And that is what we are.” Sister, the Father has lavished His love on you! You are cherished by Him. Colossians 3:12 calls us “God’s chosen ones, holy and beloved.
The same God who created the sun, moon, and stars, who established the earth and sustains every part of it, who made a way to save His people from eternal suffering, who sent His only Son to die and take our punishment on Himself, chose you! He calls us His beloved. Beloved means cherished, treasured, and dearly loved. You are so precious. You are already seen fully, known completely, and loved beyond belief by the God who created you.
My story is one of looking everywhere for love and belonging and never finding it the way I wanted until I finally turned to God and found all the love and belonging I could ever dream of and more in Him. Let your story be different, Sister. Look to God first. People will never truly fill that desire inside of you to belong. God is the only one that will fill that desire! He is everything you need, and He loves you so much more than anything you can fathom. Walk in confidence, Sister. You are cherished, treasured, and dearly loved; the beloved of the King of Kings and Lord of Lords.