Do nothing from selfishness or empty conceit, but with humility of mind regard one another as more important than yourselves.
—Philippians 2:3

Today, as we continue our series on marriage, I will give wives some practical tips on how to give your husband the respect and admiration he needs. I will speak in the negative about some ways that if you aren’t careful, you can unintentionally emotionally castrate your husband.

Number 1: by showing greater admiration for other men than your own husband. When you admire a male church leader or friend, or even relative, your husband feels unappreciated. Do not show greater admiration for men other than your own husband.

Number 2: by resisting his leadership in the home. This happens when you argue with every decision that he makes. When you resist your husband’s leadership, he doesn’t feel respected.

Number 3: by constantly reliving his mistakes. Wives, nothing will send your husband into another woman’s bed quicker than making him a prisoner of his past mistakes. Always bringing up that mistake, that shortcoming, that failure in his life is a prescription for disaster in your marriage.

And then number 4: by resisting his physical affection. Nothing destroys a marriage more than a husband or wife resisting a mate’s physical affection. In 1 Corinthians 7:5, Paul says that husbands and wives should “stop depriving one another.” When you withhold your affection, when you refuse to have sex with your mate, you are sinning against your mate and you are sinning against God.

Very few marriages can be classified as truly happy. Isn’t it sad to think you would spend the majority of the years you have here on earth involved in an unhappy or mediocre relationship? God means for us to do more than just endure marriage–He wants us to enjoy marriage. It was His idea to begin with. And there is no greater way to enjoy marriage than to concentrate on meeting the very real needs of your mate.

“Do nothing from selfishness or empty conceit, but with humility of mind regard one another as more important than yourselves; do not merely look out for your own personal interests, but also for the interests of others. Have this attitude in yourselves which was also in Christ Jesus” (Philippians 2:3-5). That’s what every woman wants, and that is what every man needs.

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Today’s devotion is excerpted from “What Every Woman Wants, What Every Man Needs” by Dr. Robert Jeffress, 2009.

Scripture taken from the NEW AMERICAN STANDARD BIBLE®, Copyright © 1960,1962,1963,1968,1971,1972,1973,1975,1977,1995 by The Lockman Foundation. Used by permission.